"Co-Dependents Anonymous is a fellowship of men and women whose common purpose is to develop healthy relationships. 

The only requirement for membership is a desire for healthy and fulfilling relationships. We rely on the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions for knowledge and wisdom. These are the principles of our program and guides to developing honest and fulfilling relationships. 

Through applying the Twelve Steps and principles in CoDA to our daily life and relationships, both present and past, we can experience a new freedom from our self-defeating lifestyles and realize a new joy, acceptance and serenity in our lives." 

- CoDA Preamble  Copyright © 2010 Co-Dependents Anonymous, Inc. and its licensors -All Rights Reserved.

 E-Meditation July 28, 2014


NEWS FLASH: Change is hard.

 If you've ever gotten a dramatically different hairstyle, or watched a home decorating show and seen the homeowner FLIP OUT because the designer tried to throw out a drawing their daughter made in kindergarten, you know what I am talking about. 

It is important that we not downplay the difficulty of what we are trying to do in codependency recovery.  In CoDA, we work towards changing our innermost lives, patterns of behavior that are deeply ingrained.  Our "default settings" from the defining events of our childhood seem like unquestionable truth.

Often it is only a series of unfortunate events that brings us to awareness that WE need to change. Change finally becomes preferable to staying the same.

The silver lining is that change doesn't have to happen all at once! Nor do you have to do it alone.  Our fellow recoverers in the program are there to not only learn the tools to adapt their own behavior, they are there to support everyone else who is trying to do the same thing.  At our best, CoDA is like a healthy family where positive change is safe and welcomed.

We are social animals, and we learn our original behaviors from the people who raised us.  Doesn't it make sense to surround yourself now with the people who are trying to create healthier, happier lives? You still have to do the work, but it is so helpful to be witnessed with kindness, especially in the early stages of that process. 

I often recall a story I read about a woman who bought an old home with a huge, neglected backyard. It was about 60 feet long and 40 feet wide. She would open the back door, look at it, and then just close the door. It was too overwhelming.
This went on for about a year.

Then one day, she finally decided to tackle a 3 by 3 foot patch of yard. That's it.  Just one little patch. She knelt on the ground and soon became absorbed with what she was finding there.  Flowers.  Stepping stones.  Discarded silverware.  She actually began to enjoy this time in her yard, look forward to it. 

She continued to explore the yard patch by patch, and it became exciting.  At one point, she uncovered an ancient lawnmower that had been completely overgrown!  After a summer, she finally allowed herself to look back at her progress, and was amazed at how much she had accomplished.   She was sure she would be able to finish the project if she just kept steadily working on it.  She would be able to create the beautiful sanctuary that she envisioned when she bought the property.

If her neighbors had been working on their yards alongside her and they had exchanged tips and stories  -- that would be a perfect metaphor for recovery.

Don't despair. One day at a time, one little patch at a time, change happens.  

Peace, love and little flowers,

Lynn S. and the CoDA Service Board
"To thine own self be true." 

Are you a therapist or other helping professional?

Many people who might benefit from the support of CoDA may not be familiar with our principles. They may have heard the name, but not have a clear understanding of what offers. 

The documents below are meant to educate you and your clients about codependency and Codependents Anonymous.  

You are welcome to print them as needed. 

More questions?  Contact one of our board members or the CoDA Omaha Service Board Community Contact - Terry C., 402-639-8474, ycodanow4u@gmail.com

CODA Therapist Letter Nov. 2013.pdf CODA Therapist Letter Nov. 2013.pdf
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Patterns and Characteristics Mar 2014 .pdf Patterns and Characteristics Mar 2014 .pdf
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Recovery Patterns of Codependence.pdf Recovery Patterns of Codependence.pdf
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Recovery from Codependency.pdf Recovery from Codependency.pdf
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Coda Meeting List May 2014.pdf Coda Meeting List May 2014.pdf
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Sponsorship in CoDA.pdf Sponsorship in CoDA.pdf
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