"Co-Dependents Anonymous is a fellowship of men and women whose common purpose is to develop healthy relationships. 

The only requirement for membership is a desire for healthy and fulfilling relationships. We rely on the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions for knowledge and wisdom. These are the principles of our program and guides to developing honest and fulfilling relationships. 

Through applying the Twelve Steps and principles in CoDA to our daily life and relationships, both present and past, we can experience a new freedom from our self-defeating lifestyles and realize a new joy, acceptance and serenity in our lives." 

- CoDA Preamble  Copyright © 2010 Co-Dependents Anonymous, Inc. and its licensors -All Rights Reserved.



CoDA E-Meditation, Nov. 13, 2014


Recovery Mind, Beginner's Mind


“In the beginner’s mind there are many possibilities, but in the expert’s there are few."

― Shunryu Suzuki,  Zen Mind, Beginner's Mind: Informal Talks on Zen Meditation and Practice


As we work our recovery, we may find ourselves grappling with behaviors that our peers learned as children.  I often felt ashamed and embarrassed when I didn't have the tools to do things that other people didn't even have to think about: Who can I trust?  How do I tell them "no?"   How do I ask for help without feeling stupid or talk myself out of it because I'm sure I'm going to get rejected anyway?

I don't have the answers to these questions for you. But if we adopt a beginner's mind as we confront these challenges, it may provide some relief.  We  of the codependent persuasion are GREAT at being really hard on ourselves.  Why not apply some of that boundless compassion we extend to our loved ones to ourselves? 

There is a part of us in recovery that is still a small child learning to navigate the world. It doesn't necessarily have to be a bad thing. Be honest about it. Embrace it. In fact, that beginner's mind can be a thrilling place to be.  I remember when I learned to tie my shoes for the first time, I was pretty damned proud of myself.  I felt the same way the first time I said no to taking on another work shift when I really didn't want to.  

You may find that people (especially outside of your family of origin) are generally pretty understanding if you are honest about the fact that you are learning a new way to do things.  They may even admire you!


If you think about it, know-it-alls are insufferable anyway.  


Have a great week!

Peace and love, 

Lynn S. and the CoDA Board 

http://www.codaomaha.org 



No Newcomer's Meeting

Thursday November 20 

or

Thanksgiving, Thursday November 27, 2014

Please join us on another night

Are you a therapist or other helping professional?

Many people who might benefit from the support of CoDA may not be familiar with our principles. They may have heard the name, but not have a clear understanding of what offers. 

The documents below are meant to educate you and your clients about codependency and Codependents Anonymous.  

You are welcome to print them as needed. 

More questions?  Contact one of our board members or the CoDA Omaha Service Board Community Contact - Terry C., 402-639-8474, ycodanow4u@gmail.com



CODA Therapist Letter Nov. 2013.pdf CODA Therapist Letter Nov. 2013.pdf
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Patterns and Characteristics Mar 2014 .pdf Patterns and Characteristics Mar 2014 .pdf
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Recovery Patterns of Codependence.pdf Recovery Patterns of Codependence.pdf
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Recovery from Codependency.pdf Recovery from Codependency.pdf
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Coda Meeting List August 2014.pdf Coda Meeting List August 2014.pdf
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Sponsorship in CoDA.pdf Sponsorship in CoDA.pdf
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